Wow she is creating some big feelings in me :)

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by Emmarose, Aug 29, 2015.

  1. Emmarose

    Emmarose Active Member

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    Hello
    So - big breath - I have just ended a 4 yr relationship ( with a man) I ended it because I wasn't happy in many respects -
    As soon as I made the decision I had a clap of lightning and realised that I'm gay :)
    I have sort of identified as bi sexual before and had many experiences with girls -
    So part of the realisation came as I have developed feelings for a female who I have met through a recovery group - as soon as I saw her I thought 'I'd like to talk with her' we have had some really good conversations and are very like minded. She came out in a very similar way to me. We are developing a friendship and she wants this too. I am in recovery and my sponsor says if I commit to not having a relationship for a yr so that I can focus on myself - and I'm in agreeance with this ..
    I trust that if we are right and are meant to be together it will happen when we are both ready
    I believe in friendship before relationship I think it is good to really get to know someone and have eyes wide open before heart wide open -
    So that's it really - :)
    Not looking for advice as such more a celebration of where I am at -
    I know in some deep level that we will be together and that she feels the same - another part of me is realistic and is like 'it may not be and that is ok too '
    For now I am enjoying my new found freedom, that I am being who I really am and that I can spend my life with another women wow I couldn't say that 3 wks ago !
    :) :)
    From a happy gay girl
     
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  2. Sapphology

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    Congratulation. Emmarose. :) I really enjoyed reading that you're in a better place. I wish your recovery well and that your new friendship blossoms.
     
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  3. Emmarose

    Emmarose Active Member

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    Thank you -
    Exciting times :)
     
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    Eloise Well-Known Member

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    Being friends first is just what you need now. And, since she is also going through the same program, she'll understand, so that should be easy. Be careful though because a crush can really mess with your mind. If you're trying to focus on yourself, it's gonna be hard.

    Congrats on recovery and on figuring out your true sexual orientation.
     
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  5. Emmarose

    Emmarose Active Member

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    Thank you - in what ways can/ have you seen it mess with the mind ?
     
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