I broke up with my gf about a month and a half ago. It feels like longer ago - maybe because we didn't really see each other for the last three weeks of the relationship. It was about time and I felt relieved and surprisingly happy for days. Of course I've had worse days than that as the time passed but I never felt that sad about it. It was bound to happen. We've texted a bit since and I recently got to a place were I felt like I could be happy for her. That I wanted her to be happy and meet someone new. If it did happen, I might not feel that OK with it but something has definitely shifted in me. So my friends suggested I should go back on Tinder. I didn't feel like it. But after a little while I felt like I was ready. I don't really feel like I want a new relationship already. I guess I just wanna get myself out there and see what happens. I've been talking a lot to this girl - let's call her Julie. We've been texting everyday for about a week and we seem to have a lot in common. She asked to meet up for coffee next week and I agreed to go. I don't really have any expectations since I don't really know her. BUT then my ex started texting me (we've been texting on/off since the breakup - like, how are you and stuff. Sometimes she would tell me she miss me and I told her back, 'cause of course I do). She asked me if I'd ever thought about giving our relationship a second chance. I immediately felt sad and almost started crying. Earlier she had told me she missed me but thought that us breaking up was the right thing to do, so I thought she was moving on as well. I don't want her to be sad. After that she got kinda upset with me but she said sorry and we're talking again. Now I just feel kinda bad about going on a date with Julie. I also feel like it isn't fair to Julie if, let's say, she likes me. It's easy to think: well it's just a date - but you never know. We might like each other, right? And now I just feel like everything has changed. I shouldn't be dragging someone in to this, should I? And I realized that if it was the other way around I wouldn't like the way she texted with her ex. I'm just a bit overwhelmed by it all at the moment. I guess I've already kinda answered my own question but I'm just so confused. The fact that I now know that my ex gf wants me back, have made me think a lot about her lately. I can't help but think about what it would be like to be back together. I really do miss her and we had some good times. But I also know that I definitely don't wanna go down that road again. I've let her hurt me too many times and it would be doomed from the start. But still my mind keeps wandering. Should I just cancel on Julie? And should I tell her we should stop talking altogether? Should I just delete the app and lay low for a while? I just suddenly feel like such a douchebag and I don't want to be. Am I in over my head here? Did I get out there too fast?