Ok so me and this girl who I met on a dating website had been casual dating, it's been 4 months. The first two months was great and although it was suppose to be casual neither of us dated/kissed/slept with anyone else during that time. We always texted each day, always texted good morning, asked about each other's day, flirted and said goodnight. We had our ups and downs, she would want to end it because she wanted serious and then back tracked that she wanted casual so things were confusing from the start. She was a lot more keen than I was to make things serious, it definitely didn't sound like she wanted casual at times which I worried about. I was reluctant to go too fast because I was going on a 5 week trip and didn't want that pressure but promised that when I was back we would give it a serious go. She didn't like that idea but went with it. I didn't promise that I wouldn't kiss other girls which I admit was wrong and have apologised to her for that but I was always completely honest with her on where I stood with things. During my trip I was missing her, I told her so, we sent emails or Facebook msgs, it all felt good. I told her I had no intentions of kissing other girls or anything like that and again assured her we would give it a serious go, she didn't seem convinced. One day she sends me a msg saying she's been asked out on a date and wanted to know my thoughts. I told her I'd rather she didn't and would be upset but it was her choice. She said she wouldn't knowing how I felt. It annoyed me that she even had to consider it but I got over it. Later she admitted she didn't even want to date this girl, that it was a game to see my reaction!!! She kept having this opinion that I would be sleeping around with other girls while I was away even though I told her I wouldn't and I'm not really like that. When I returned home her mood changed instantly. She had been looking forward to seeing me up until the plane landed. Was hard to get any text conversation out of her but finally arranged a time to go see her. That night was great, or so I thought. She kept hinting about asking me to be her girlfriend. She was almost in tears when she begged me to never cheat on her. I promised her I wouldn't and that I really wanted make a go of it. Problem came with valentines day. I had arranged to go out with friends the second weekend I was back home before realising that weekend was valentines weekend. I had asked her if she wanted to do anything for it after I had made the plans because I would have cancelled them but she said she doesn't do valentines day. So I decided I'd go on out with my friends and asked her to come out with me to meet them, she said she would think about it. In hindsight that was the stupid choice and I regret it, I should have known better than to believe she didn't want to do anything. The days up to it she stopped texting me and ignored my last text. Night before valentines I texted a simple "hey". Didn't hear from her until the next morning. She wished me a happy v day and said she'll be going to her mothers. I was disappointed. Later that night when I was leaving to meet my friends she sends a long text saying she's worried about us and that she didn't feel a spark last Sunday etc. I was so upset and angry I just replied "end it then". Had a miserable night, stupidly went back on to the dating website I met her on, I think it was to get reassurance or some flirty chat, I dunno but it didn't help but I also didn't arrange any dates or anything. She never texted again until 2 days after her "no spark" text. She switched things around by accusing me of not feeling the spark and then had a go at me for going out on valentines day! She had it in her head that I still didn't want us to be serious and said nothing changed since I got home, and it was all her making the effort.....I was only home a week, only seen her once and it was her who stopped communication with me. During these breakup/makeup texts back and forth I seen on Facebook that a friend of hers (possible new friend because she never mentioned her before until I was home) wrote on her time line about her dog's sleeping habits, it was flirty and the only way this girl would know how annoying her dog is is if she was in her bed. Yes I got jealous but considering what was going on I couldn't help but wonder is this girl the reason she's acting like this. Anyway I didn't bring it up. I got her convinced that I did want her and she thought great that we were now on the same page but she wanted me to be more open about things. She also said that she's insecure about her body, she has an amazing body and I told her that. All was fine and she asked me to come to hers a couple of days later. We had also arranged for me to call her two nights before I was to see her but when it came to it she declined the call and then texted saying she was busy and has a lot of work to do....in the meantime being on Facebook….go figure. Days went on and the texting or any communication was bad on her part. She responded but didn't give anything back, no asking how I was. The day to go to hers came up, she cancelled late on because she was tired. I was annoyed, not only for the poor excuse but also because it was her first text to me that day, sent it in the evening and there was no hi how are you etc. Gave it a couple of hours, thought about things and sent her a text saying I was fed up with trying, that she's making no effort and has shown no interest in me since I got home, that it was bringing me down and that I deserve better than this and was done. She then texted saying she's in hospital, her dad who is ill took a bad turn that week and had been in hospital all week. I felt bad but how was I to know. I told her she should have told me all this before. She said she shuts people out because she's been let down by people in the past and doesn't want to be a burden. I told her that she should be able to confide in whoever she is with and if anyone found it to be a burden then they aren't worth being with. She said that was sweet and that I'll meet someone better. Texts went on but I was unclear what we were, thought when she said I'll find someone better that that was it for us. I told her more of my worries such as flirty fb post with her friend and the lack of attention she seemed to give me compared to this friend. She admitted the posts were full on but the girl is just a great friend of hers, said she would be lost without her lately and that I have nothing to worry about. I told her I was glad she has a friend to rely on and that I was here for her if she needed anything. Days went by again, still bad texting, I didn't bother making the effort anymore like she wasn't. I thought we were over so went back on to the dating website again. Didn't chat to anyone, ignored anyone who chatted to me. Decided to delete my profile because it wasn't helping me. She then texted same day to say she was going to call me that night and she was affectionate with her text which made me wonder were still together in her head. I then noticed she deleted me off Facebook before she was going to call, I texted to ask her about it, she said her fb was acting odd (little bit of b*llshit). I let that slide with her but in my head it was a worry, worried she found out I was back on the dating website, we all know someone on the site or that she was hiding something. I told her about being back on the website and she was so angry and annoyed. I also told her that I had wanted to ask her to be my girlfriend on valentines day....no idea why I had to say that but I panicked and let it all out…I mean she did want me to be more open lol! She waited until she calmed down and called me. I said to her that I thought we had ended, she didn't think so. Got things sorted, I told her that she needs to communicate more about what's going on and asked her not to be standoffish with me (she once demanded that of me too, hypocrite) but if she needed space she has to let me know. She asked me to see her a couple of days later. The run up to that day was much the same, nothing changed from our phone call. Still being distant and not texting so I kept my distance too. She also didn't add me back on her fb and ignored my friend request. I haven't asked her about it, I'll respect thats her own business. Anyway the day came. I asked if we were still on for tonight, she said she might have to go to her parents but would let me know in an hour. She never texted me back. So in my head I gave up, didn't text her again to see what was happening so I could only assume she went to her parents. I sent her a flirty text next morning to lighten the mood and test the waters, her reply was "what brought that on" :/ that evening I went shopping with a friend. She texted. I didn't reply. She texted again two hours later asking was I ok, now this coming from her who ignores my texts for days and takes a full day most times to get back to me if at all. Left it another hour. Told her I was busy with my friend, an excuse she would often use lately for not texting me. The next evening she was texting me, said she was going to the cinema, I told her I was going out with my friend from the previous evening, she asked who my friend was. I had told her about my friend before because she's from the same town as her mother, so it wasn't a game to get her jealous which she probably was. She sent me msgs later while I was out, probably worried I would be flirting or something with other girls. She told me in the texts that she misses me and was sorry for being rubbish. She then texted the next night asking was I going out again, I said no and she said she was. Wished her to have a good night and left her to it.