I’m after some reassurance/ advice on my current situation. My girlfriend and I have been together for eight months, and it has been amazing. The only time we ever had little blips was when we went away on separate holidays…but even then we were great. We lived very close to one another and were able to see each other as much as we could, which was almost every day. My girlfriend went off to uni two weeks ago and I have to admit it has been ridiculously hard to deal with. She was understandably not overly happy about going to uni in the first place and there were a lot of tears down the phone, so I immediately reacted by hopping on a train to see her, twice in a week! Oops. Probably not the best thing to do. We had so many conversation about her going to uni and how she didn’t want to be single etc and she had told me so many times this is what she wanted. After a week I fell very ill, and began to grow quite impatient as she wasn’t replying to my texts for hours at a time, and in all honestly I just wanted her with me because I felt so awful. It was so selfish but all my emotions came out at once in a phone call and it completely freaked her out. She immediately put up a wall of defence and said that she needed space and was questioning if she really wanted to be in a relationship. She said she had been thinking about it for a while and that she didn’t want to tell because she was scared of making me upset. I was horrified she had lied to me as I had always stressed how important it was for us to be honest with one another as we could work out anything if we just talked to each other about it. So she said she needed space and time to really think about what she wanted, so I left it at that. After a day we skyped and I spoke rationally about everything to her and said that I would leave her to do what she needed to do. She said she just needed space and time to chill and that’s what I gave her. The next morning I hear from her via a text asking me about information for the weekend as we were supposed to be going away to an event together, which I has assumed would no longer happen under the circumstances… I just found this really odd behaviour for someone that needed space…to contact me not even 12 hours after saying that. I then got a text saying she wanted to come and stay with me the following week so we could spend time together as she missed me…again conflicting messages leaving me so ruddy confused. The next few days we texted a bit, but nothing major, I just left her to it. Although inside all I wanted to do was see her and make everything right again. I hate not hearing from her, I guess it’s partly the being left behind syndrome kicking in. I’m still doing all the same things while she is experiencing this big new chapter to her life. I feel left out and it feels horrible! The weekend arrived and she decided last minute that she as coming to Brighton, I think mainly because a lot of her old friends were there as well and not really for me though. We got drunk, we danced, she out of nowhere accused me of having a fling with another friend which I was so horrified at I didn’t even know what to say! We got over it went home had a fumble and everything seemed ok in the morning. We spoke about a few things and she seemed happy with where we were and that we just had a small ‘blip’. She said she liked the past few days and wanted to carry it on like that, not texting as much etc. I did say to her that I liked to have a goodnight text just so I know she is alive and ok – and she did text me goodnight which I guess shows she listened to that at least. The thing is, I found it hard to begin with but now with even less contact I’m finding it even harder. I don’t understand how she can update her facebook and twitter but not take a minute out of her day to contact me, or ask me how my day is etc. Because I would never do that to her! I send a text and she doesn’t read it for hours, but I can see she checks her facebook etc…what is going on in her head? Is she purposefully ignoring me? It’s driving me crazy, because I am crazy about her because we have had such a good run so far. There is nothing I could fault her for up to this point and just the sudden change is very out of the ordinary. Sometimes I just feel she tells me what I want to hear and I’m second guessing things she says to me which is awful. I just want to get back to normal! Has anyone been through something similar or has any tips to make being apart easier for the both of us? I don’t want to lose her because I’ve been idiot and pushed her away! Any advice or comments will be much appreciated.