Hello, So about year in a half ago my ex up and left me for a man she just met. Sucked, took me a while but I eventually got over it (or so I thought). Heres where my problem lies. I hadn't laid hands on anyone (vice versa) until recently. About 5 months ago I started talking to a friend, a friend of 3 years. Weve always had some kind of attraction there but we both just kind of ignored because we were both in long term relationships. Once we were both single we realized we could now act upon this sexual chemistry. Now back to the problem, 5 months ago we started talking (as more than just friends), the sexual tension between us is outrageous. I mean its like the moment we kiss its intense. My problem is the moment were about to actually have sex I freeze. I get really nervous & freeze. So here we both are all hot and bothered & as soon as an article of clothing comes off I freeze up. Ive never had an issue with sex before, actually Im a very sexual person I consider myself pretty experienced on the topic (Im 26). But all of a sudden Its like Ive never had sex before & have no clue what to do. I mean we've messed around a couple times while intoxicated (oral, finger, strap) but like I said I was intoxicated & it was a quickie. Id like to be able to perform as I normally would while SOBER. I always try to come up with a lame excuse like my roommates will hear, or we dont have enough time. but really the truth is I absolutely have no idea why I'm stopping when Im this horny. This girl has been so patient with it also, I really like her and Im sure she feels the same & were not trying to rush into any relationship but Im sure by now shes getting a little fed up with me basically teasing her with sex then not even living up to it. Im not sure if its performance anxiety or what but I need to get over this, already. How should I go about this? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.