I don't know if this is the correct place to ask this but here goes. I have a best friend who I have long suspected as being gay. I have asked her numerous times if she was and she had always avoided the answer. Everyone suspects her of being gay, even her family and there are always jokes about it being made at her expense. She was a tomboy growing up and I guess she never grew out of it. She doesn't wear make-up and dresses, only when she is forced into it and she is obsessed with sport. I know these don't necessarily mean that she is gay but it just adds to the suspicion. And when anybody says anything negative about the gay people she is he first to defend them. You just don't make homophobic jokes around her. She's nineteen, she has never had a boyfriend. A few months ago she did get with a guy on a night out. She says there are more but he is the only guy that I know that she has got with. She only made out him though, nothing further and she is still a virgin. Anyway, one night, a couple of weeks ago we were alone at her house and I asked her again. She tried to avoid the topic but I was more persistent this time as she looked like she was going to crack. And she did. She said that she didn't know. All she knew was that she wasn't straight. She didn't know yet if she was gay or bisexual. She said to me that she is nineteen and she doesn't have to figure it out yet. That she has the rest of her life to do that. But shouldn't she figure it out sooner rather than later? Surely she could be happier with being honest with herself. In my opinion she is gay because she told me that she felt physically sick after making out the guy. Her theory is that it was because he was a smoker but could it be more? Do gay people get that kind of reaction from making out with someone of the opposite sex? I told her that being gay won't change how we view her but she disagreed. She said it will change everything. I just don't get get it. I tell her it seems hypocritical of her that she is so passionate about gay rights but won't admit that she is gay herself. She disagrees and says that it only makes her a hypocrite if she was homophobic. She says shes not hurting anyone but shes hurting anyone but she is hurting herself. Shes not happy I know she isn't, I can see it but she pretends she is. I'm her best friend. I know her. So what do I say? How do I get her to come out? I'm not gay so I don't know what its like so is her behavior normal?