Three months ago I met a very special girl. She's awesome and I could definitely see myself spending my life with her but was by no means intending on entering the be all end all fully committed rest of life relationship right now as I was single by choice for so long and wanted to ease in to that. Everything started off great. We had compatible schedules, similar views and get along great. A few times we went to parties and got a bit drunk and she brought up various relationship talks (and since then only wants to have them when we're a bit boozed). We also discussed many other things that I was not capacitated enough to say that: 1. I didn't want to have that talk at that time or 2. No, I didn't want to make that relationship commitment right yet. Within 2 weeks I had agreed to be exclusive with gf titles which was not something I would have agreed to sober. It's something I eventually did want but not right then as everything in my life changed 2 months before meeting her and I wanted some time to enjoy it while not making every decision involving her. I understand I screwed up here. She is incapable of living in the moment which is what I NEED right now as I changed my life so I could do that (new job/career & education path). She wants to plan every single second and things all the way up to October and 5 years from now which drives me crazy and even more so when we do plan things and she always ends up changing her mind at the last moment which makes her planning annoying and unnecessary! Also her work schedule changed and we don't have days off together unless we schedule them off which really upsets me because before meeting her that was my #1 bare minimum dating standard and wouldn't have gone on date #1 had I known that was a possibility and even expressed that to her and she told me not to worry. She's talking marriage, babies/lack there of, dying together, moving to another country/continent in 5 years for her education and now keeps pressuring me about moving in together and I am no were near close to ready to move in with her though I said I would consider it one night again when she asked when I was drunk which I wouldn't have said sober! As I get to know her friends this is not uncommon for her to dive head first into a relationship. Can I realistically back track or are we incompatible due to differing relationship speeds? I'm not ready to dive head first into this (and it kind of feels like we're already there and I'm panicking). I want to enjoy us NOW, not focus on the future and I'm stressing out about "forever" despite wanting that with her awhile after only 3 months together. What do I do?!