Love at 2nd sight

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  1. karin000aoi

    karin000aoi Member

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    Hey guys,
    What do you think: can you become attracted to someone even though at first you were not?
     
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  2. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member

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    Short answer: Yes.

    Slightly longer answer: I think you can learn something about someone that makes them attractive. Attraction isn't just physical chemistry. For instance you are talking to someone and they start talking passionately about a subject.
     
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    Emm Well-Known Member

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    Nancy nailed it, no more words needed :)
     
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    Awesome! Haha
     
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    You can also find someone immensely attractive...and when she opens her mouth to speak....it wanes, incredibly. Attraction, you'll find....is more than looks. Looks fade...personality, intelligence, chemistry, compatibility...those persevere. If you're looking for a one night stand...then well, physical attraction is everything. If you're looking for substance..you'll find that there's many layers....the minute you discount someone for looks alone could be the minute you're selling your future relationship potential very short.

    And no..i'm not saying that physical attraction isn't something to be considered. I'm saying that one shouldn't focus on just that to find happiness.
     
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    Nancy and Spygirl nailed it :)

    You'll always have to go beyond looks if your after substance.
     
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    go beyond looks to find something else there...but if you don't have chemistry or want to kiss and hook up with her then you may slip into best friend mode....
     
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    Eloise Well-Known Member

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    It's possible that the first time you met one or both of you weren't available, thereby putting any attraction on the back burner. In other words, you might not have felt the attraction because you had someone else on your mind. But, the second time you meet, you're both single and suddenly you notice things about her you didn't notice before.

    This can also work in reverse. You may meet someone you are really attracted to but after a time you not longer feel the same. It can be because you've found out things about her that you didn't care for, or just that whatever caused you to find her attractive waned over time.
     
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    Johille Anderson Well-Known Member

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    Being attracted to someone means what? You both talk on something of common interest, something that makes both your hearts balance out of joy, and there you go. If you're not attracted beyond that, then I'm not sure what else to call it.
     
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