Hypnotised by her eyes

Discussion in 'Does She Like Me?' started by anonymous_, Aug 9, 2016.

  1. anonymous_

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    Hey guys. Need advise whether I should pursue this girl I met last weekend at pride of course.

    So I met up with an old college friend who brought her and old work friends with her. One of her friends I knew mutually as I know her room mate. Anyway to cut a long story short it was instant attraction, we danced all night, there felt like nobody else was around us. We locked eyes all the time and the chemistry was insane. She later asked me back to her flat, explaining she had a boyfriend but that he was up for a threesome, she explained she just wanted to be with a girl.

    I was very apprehensive and I have morals. However this flew out of the window and I couldn't say no. We made out and it was insanely hot, when I stated kissing her neck she said she didn't think she could do it because of her boyf and didn't want to feel guilty as she didn't know whether she loved him.

    I stopped and she still carried on kissing me but I wanted to not have her feel that way. We cuddled and talked through the night, she said I was a great kisser, complimented me on looks, and said some joke about coming around in the future.

    Do I contact her or not? I left and we said bye in the morning but didn't exahcnge numbers etc. Help :)
     
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  2. Kaorin

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    I would let her come to you. She's in a relationship, and it sounds to me that if you continue to show interest, she will keep you hanging there while she "makes up her mind" on whether she loves her boyfriend. Thing is, she will likely never make a change once she knows she's safely got both you and her boyfriend there. You'll end up being played.

    Carry on with your life and leave it. If she wants to contact you bad enough, she will. If she does, judge it from there, but until then, I'd forget it.
     
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    Thanks so much for this. It's so confusing when I really like her but don't want to interfere between where she is at the moment. We both shared some very deep stuff. Thanks again :)
     
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    I agree with Kaorin, this sounds like something you don't want to get involved in. She's with someone else and is clearly confused about her feelings for him. It just spells disaster from the start. If she likes you enough, she should respect her current relationship and leave him before pursuing anything with you. I think for your own self-respect it's important too.
     
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    My friend (the flat mate said she told him as soon as he got in, and that she'd told her boyfriend who apparently didn't care! Feel I've been used as an experiment maybe?
    My
     
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    It does sound a bit that way. It's really difficult when you like someone so much, even though you've only just met, because you want to over look their shitty behaviour. Unfortunately it will only lead to heartbreak on your side. I would say don't get any more involved now and avoid yourself a lot of pain.
     
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    I'd suggest to go along only if you're a masochist or if you're into 3somes since that's all you'll get with her.
     
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    I can see why you wanted to consider it, because in your narration, it sounds like she does have some morals even though she got attracted to you. She stopped at some point and she cleared it with her boyfriend. But, I don't like that the first thing she said was the 3some. It does feel like she is mainly pulling you into her relationship with her boyfriend.

    Even if 3somes are off the table. You don't want your interactions with her to be porn stories for them. Also, If you are monogamous and you don't ever see sharing her, then don't. But don't judge her, just tell her that you are not into sharing.
     
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    Realizing that sometimes you don't hear from AE what you are hoping to hear, I will add my "vote"... since you asked:

    No, I would not pursue her.
    No, do not seek out contact information for her (she didn't give it to you and she certainly had the opportunity to do so throughout the whole night).
    Yes, you very likely may have been an experiment or she was investigating whether or not you would be willing to be part of their relationship experiment. (Just because she allegedly told her boyfriend right away and he did not seem to care, does not mean she is necessarily interested in more with you or that she gets points for honesty. It may have been her plan all along to experiment with you and report details to her boyfriend, for a reaction from him, on a dare, or even as part of their plan to pursue a future threesome, etc You don't really know and you aren't going to get the truth of that through rumors or outsiders' observations. Only those two really know what the deal is between them.).

    If you are truly interested in finding someone who can be available to you and is only interested in you, let this one go. Sometimes, it really is Just a night of fun dancing, sexy stares, steamy kisses and sharing "deep" stuff in the moment ---- let it be that.

    The reality of this actual scenario has the potential to be very messy and full of heartache, compromised values, and great regret or humiliation. Don't be so quick to throw your own beliefs or standards for yourself "out the window" because of "insane chemistry." You deserve to have the whole deal (-if that is what you really want?). Less than that will always feel like Less Than That...no matter how exciting.

    Good luck to You!...(and don't spend too much time letting your mind obsess over an unavailable girl when there may be hot ladies who are available, are good kissers, and want you for more than a side dish to their boyfriends! ;))
     
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    She only made out with you because her boyfriend wants a threesome. She was trying to find out if she could hook up with a woman so she can please him. She has zero morals. She only said she didn't want to go further with you because her boyfriend wasn't there to join in. Only contact her if you are interested in hooking up with her boyfriend with her and if you like being used. Otherwise, OH HELL NO!
     
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