I just wanted to get peoples advice on dealing with subtle homophobia. For example sometimes when I mention Pride or gay bars to acquaintances or classmates they have a weird reaction. These are people that don't necessarily know that I am gay. I mentioned something to one of my classmates about working on Pride and he said, with a kind of a disgusted look on his face, "Ehh, that should be interesting...I guess". I was also having a conversation with a classmate and mentioned going out to a bar (a known gay club) and he said, "was that weird? I don't know those types of people." I am not sure if they would say these things if they knew I was gay. I usually don't tell people straight up that I am gay, people usually find out when I am talking about someone I am dating or when I mention gay events. I am very out of the closet but sometimes I feel that people EXPECT me to tell them that I am gay within the first five minutes of meeting them. I don't think of being gay as something I need to announce, just as straight people usually don't tell me they are straight when I first meet them. I guess my two questions are 1) What to say to people who say things similar to the examples I gave above? 2) How do new people usually find out that you are gay? Thanks for any suggestions!