I'm closeted, I realised some years ago I was gay and in the past few accepted it, but I'm not out to anyone. I want to tell some close friends that I am, I feel like this is something I'm holding onto and by letting even one other person know it will be some sort of emotional release. I'm in my mid 30's, have been in my job a long time, and although I haven't dated for the past 10 years, everybody assumes I'm straight. I feel that right now everyone has an established image of who I am, and although I know it's probably not as big a deal to them as it is to me, I feel absolutely terrified about revealing something very personal to them. Every time I try to tell a friend, the words don't fall out of my mouth, their kids are running around, it's too public a place, or you anxiety prevents me from even bringing it up. So my question is, how did you find the time to come out? How did you feel after it? How was everyone's response? I know every situation is different and mines will be too, but hearing real life stories might fill me with confidence. EDITED TO ADD: should I happen to meet someone and start dating then I would absolutely come out, or not so much come out as just say who I'm dating, no big deal. I'm not ashamed or hiding exactly, I'm just rubbish at talking about personal things.