I am so confused and could really use some advice... I'm sure many of you have heard this one before, so I'll try to be brief. I dated my first girlfriend and love for 7.5 years, but a job transfer last year took me to another country. It was temporary job assignment, and we did long distance and it worked for most of the year. But then I met a girl here and things got out of control. My long term girlfriend I never had any real troubles and were generally very happy together. But I met this girl here, who is ten years younger and has never been in a relationship, and we just clicked. As things fell apart with my long term girlfriend, I got closer to this new girl. Honestly, I think I let things fall apart because I was into this new girl. I know, I am a complete dick. And now, many many months later, the new girl and I are 'dating', while I sometimes talk to my ex, who still loves me and is being very patient with me, waiting for me to come around. The problem is, this new girl has said she loves me, and I love her too, but it doesn't quite feel like the love I felt when I fell in love with my 'ex'. And also, I am on the verge of being transferred back to the USA, which means the new girl and I will be faced with a long distance relationship for at least a few years. I just do no know what to do. I do love my ex, she was my first love. But I do also love this new girl, and although things are different with her, I know we could have a great future too. She is funny and has an amazing attitude and is beautiful and a genuine person. My ex is also funny and is the most sweet and caring person who really makes people feel loved. The new girl isn't as open with her feelings, so that has caused a few issues already... and anyway, I am just rambling now. But the point is, I am an ass who, for whatever reason, has two fantastic girls who love me. I know I don't deserve either of them, and I definitely do not want to hurt either of them. Can someone share any advice or similar stories? Has anyone experienced this and how did it work out? Which to choose? I know my future with the ex would be secure and stable and loving, while the new girl is so young, and even though she is definitely not a serial dater, I'm just not as confident... I don't even know what I am saying anymore... thank you for listening.