How do I get out of the friend zone? Women always want to keep me in the friend zone. I'm fine to hang out with and joke with. I'm even greater to confide in and ask for advice. But when it comes to actually trying to go out on a date or hang out as more than friends I'm always told, "You are really cool and great to talk to. I value our friendship, but I'm not looking for anything right now". Then I watch them go off and flirt and ask other women to dance, buy them drinks, etc and basically blow me off and discard me like I'm not even there and have no feelings. It's happened so many times that I'm starting to believe that maybe I'll always be in the friend zone. I'm a firm believer that it's important to be friends first but it would be nice to have someone by my side in my life as a Partner. I'm not trying to get married right now. I'm just trying to get out there.