I'm a very young 40 year old, who's known I was gay for a very long time, but I was in a hetero marriage, and for lots of complicated reasons, we stayed together until about 7 months ago. Now I'm free to date and find friends and at first it felt very exciting, but so far, I've not met a single lesbian at all. Not even one. I realize I'm obviously looking in the wrong places, like stupid social media apps, or dating sites. But that has yielded no results at all. I'm not even necessarily looking for a serious relationship, I'd just enjoy meeting friends like me if nothing else. Although ultimately, I am hoping to find a relationship before I'm dead at least. I have been caged for most of my life and now that I'm free, I guess I thought this would be easier. How silly of me. I have a gay male friend who took me to a gay bar for my first time, but I really didn't see any girls I'd like, and no one obviously liked me. The only action I got was being kissed by a gay man as a joke, and then he walked away. Figures I go to a gay bar and get kissed by a man. This is my life. I live in a pretty small town, so there are no meet ups or groups or a big gay or lesbian presence. We had to travel a bit just to get to the bar. But what should I do that I'm not doing? I'm lonely and getting a little sad about it. I just wonder how those of you who do have lesbian friends or are in relationships, actually met one another. Thanks to anyone who tries to help.