Hello AE members, I'm dealing with a situation here that deals with issues pertaining to my wife's old boyfriend. They had two boys together. When I met my wife the boys were 3 1/2 and barely 1 years old, it was the last half of 2015. He has been a shit father to the boys and was a horrible partner to my wife. He would always go drinking with his friends to the point that our older son didn't want to be held by him. When he cheated on her (for months) while she was pregnant with the second baby she almost left him but he somehow convinced her to accept his infidelity. He wanted the woman he cheated on my wife with to move in with both of them. That actually happened but after a year that woman left him and said she couldn't deal with his behavior. I met my wife a couple of months after that woman had moved out of their home and apparently he was still having sex with that woman. He wanted their relationship to be open and he accepted me as her partner(only because he had his side B). He would always get jealous of my relationship with my wife and at several points had asked her to leave me. She obviously did not. He would also send me messages to leave his "wife" alone when they were never married. He tried to propose to her in mid 2016 and that's when she finally told him that it wasn't going to happen. He asked my wife to pick up the kids on several occasions because he was drinking and couldn't bring the kids home. He demanded he have the kids on the weekends but would flake. Once he starting "dating" some woman, he would actually come around to take the kids. They got into a big roll over accident and he told my wife it was a fender bender until the kids told us that the car had rolled over several times. He filed the kids under his taxes when he only had them maybe 10 weekends out of the whole year. My wife is very gullible and he said he needed their socials because he was going to put them on his insurance (this was after he got pissed, when he found out that I had put the kids on my insurance). He never buys clothes or shoes for them, he's careless and they always end up being ruined. There has just been so much more crap that I have had to deal with because of him and it's affecting the relationship I have with my wife. I have been unemployed for almost two months which is very unusual for me. The longest I had been without a job in my whole career was three weeks and my wife gets upset because we are so tight on money(some of our savings have dwindled). I've been actively applying to jobs but no one will hire me because of my experience. Indeed, CL, glassdoor, you name it. I've been trying to convince my wife to go to child support services to get advice on this and she hesitates. She says she doesn't want to be like him and I just want what's best for the kids and their well being. What should I do or what would you guys suggest might alleviate the situation? I feel like I have my hands tied around my back Thank you for any words or advice you might have to offer.