Dating expectations & exclusivity...

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  1. golddustwoman

    golddustwoman Member

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    Is the general expectation that you can date multiple people until exclusivity is discussed or do girls generally date one girl at a time?

    I'm new to actual dating !!!
     
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    Spygirl Well-Known Member

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    There's no right or wrong answer except -- be honest. Communicate with the person/people you're dating. You'll look like less of a jerk if you're open that your dating relationships are not exclusive.
     
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    There is no general expectation other than to be honest. If you are dating other people while also seeing her I think its something she should be aware of.
     
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  5. TADinUS

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    Most people nowadays kind of expect that, unless some uber religious or insecure types.

    Imagine, you date someone one time, on a friday and you may not see them for a week or so, haven't talked them. Someone attractive asks you out on a date that evening on a Tues. Are you cheating? No. Can you see yourself saying "I'm seeing someone." and you've only spent 3 hours with her?

    That is what exclusive means. You're not exclusive until you both agree that you are. Its usually not even talked about.
    I know a woman who did that to a friend of mine, demanded he sees no one else. He said "okay"... and had sex with other women while she went on dates with him. Sure, she had a mind and found her sexy, but she wasn't giving up the goods. :) Did he lie? Yes. But she also had unrealistic expectations.

    I never demanded a date to be exclusive, ever. I think a few have asked If I'm seeing others or would... and I gave an honest answer. Which IMHO, goes a long way.

    PS: Only once I've dated two women at the same time and they were already friends... that was awkward when one said to the other "This is so-n-so" and the other says "I know." :| But I didn't lie and so I dated two women at the same club at the same time, individually. ie: Not a threesome.
     
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