Hi guys, I'm new on here but have spent the last couple of weeks reading a number of the threads. My 'issue' isn't painful or urgent, just very slightly frustrating and I just wanted some outside perspectives. I've been on a social media platform for a number of years. I have quite a large following on it and get many private messages from all sorts of people both here in the UK where I am and abroad. A couple of years ago a girl popped up who commented on a lot of my work and private messaged me. It turned out she lived only 10mins away from me and we shared some mutual interest for art and poetry. We spoke at length through private messaging over the next few days (constantly) but about insignificant things really, until something quite big happened in my personal life and I was off social media for a couple of months. During that time she would every couple of days or a week like an old post of mine. Not ever messaging me directly to ask how I was. I eventually resurfaced online and she messaged me after a few days and I, in the course of conversation, explained the upheaval in my personal life (family related). Anyway after another full day of messages she went silent. Over the next two years this whole cycle continued. She would message, we would talk through messages over the course of a day, then she wouldn't respond to my last message and disappear from direct contact (although not from being online) for a number of days or weeks and then come back again. Eventually I asked for her number and she gave it but when I said I'd call she was clear that she didn't want a friendship and that she preferred no labels?! Whatever that meant. I was abroad on holiday and left it at that. It didn't make any real difference to my life really as I was busy getting on with work, friends, dating, family, whatever. Eventually the contact became more sporadic and I forgot about her largely. Or just considered her as some quasi-internet follower/friend type. All this time as far as I was concerned she's straight and I hadn't spoken about my sexuality as it never came up. Fast forward to this last Christmas and her messages became more frequent all of a sudden and more flirty through this social network. I then decided to message her number in the hope that maybe some direct contact would get to the bottom of what she actually wants. We spent a few days having some intense conversations through text. Emotional, flirty, funny, whatever. And in the middle of it there it was again 'I don't want to make friends, I'm fighting my own personal battles etc.' So I had a bit of an outburst and sent her a long message saying I don't understand what she wants if it's not even a friendship and that it can't be all on her terms which it has been these last two years. But I said it in a much sterner and meaner way and implied she was being emotionally manipulative. She didn't message back. Weeks went by. I eventually relented and messaged her, she said she had been upset and sad about what I said and me leaving and that she 'had' liked me a lot (what??). Anyway I apologised for being abrupt and we started talking again. Lots of intense and flirty conversations over a couple of days and then wham back to being cut off. I then told her I was gay to see if that would illicit a reaction. Not much. Then I asked if I was ever going to hear a voice (I had heard it on social media but we hadn't spoken directly). Right after my question, she mentioned some guy was trying to message and flirt with her! I then backed off. In the meantime a girl I met some time ago at an event asked me out to see her, I told (internet) girl about this proposed date and she got all funny about it. Not being able to work her out I completely backed off and now she tries to flirt again by sending me videos of her cooking and saying she wants to cook for me. Am I missing something?! At the same time in the middle of a flirt she will throw in a story about a guy or that she has her own issues and I shouldn’t have expectations of friendship. None of this is world ending, I completely appreciate it. But just what are the games about? Or are they games? Just wondering partly out of curiosity and partly out of frustration.