I am so so so so infuriated right now... Do you know that scene from Saving Face when Wil (the doctor) says how her mom knows she's gay and YET she still asks her about boyfriends and tries to set her up? That's EXACTLY how it is for me right now, hence the subject: Are you kidding me?! I came out towards the end of last year, very conservative parents (of course, aren't they all?) it was done by phone (I live in a different country and I just didn't want to let the year pass with this burden on my chest), mind you I am 25 and have been in a wonderful relationship for the past umm... almost 6 years, with the woman I plan to marry next year. I am a grown ass woman, always have been very independent from all points of view, especially financially. The only reason I didn't come out sooner is that I know my mom's health is not ideal so I just bottled it up (until I didn't) I was "kind of" rooting for a positive reaction, which never came, she cried, I cried, my dad cried, I cried some more, he basically told me I'm not his daughter anymore. The story is really more complicated than that but you don't need to get sucked into my drama. One or so months pass and my mom starts reaching out, fast forwarding until the present day, we talk 1-3 times a week, about useless, conversational stuff, nothing too "deep", I talk about my fiancée if the conversation will lead there, our trips, our daily lives, her family, our lives, our animals, I don't get into it too much but I don't pretend like it doesn't exist. It's not "me", it's always "us", making sure the point gets across. So 2-3 weeks ago we had this "hypothetical" conversation where my mom said something along the lines "Well, you know, us older people, we adapt harder, that doesn't mean we don't try" Light bulbs! WOW, she's trying, awesome, my parents might even come to our wedding (we set the date so far back, in 2016, to give them time to "adjust"! Hallelujah! Great news, right?! WRONG! Our celebration was apparently short lived because guess what my mom asks me today? "So did you find a boyfriend?", I say "WHAT?" she says "A man! Have you find any boyfriend?", my instant response was "OK mom, I need to go back to work. Bye" *end call* - you have to admire my patience. I am REALLY trying to be respectful, I get that she's not ready to have certain talks but to completely ignore?! what I'm saying?! to dismiss the relationship I've been having for years? (and she knows it's been that long) ARE YOU FCKING KIDDING ME? She's basically sticking her fingers into her ears going *lalalalalala* And the worst part is that I've invested SO MUCH energy into understanding them and trying to make them understand me. I've been patient (and I'm not a very patient person). My fiancée has been telling me all along "You know, I'm not sure, it's too strange, don't get your hopes up, you'll just get hurt in the end" obviously I wouldn't hear any of it "You'll see, they'll come around" ..... I don't know if I have the energy anymore, just want to throw in the towel.