Am I asking too much?

Discussion in 'Advice on Meeting Women' started by LiveInTheMoment, Sep 4, 2015.

  1. Sunlighttttt

    Sunlighttttt Member

    Jan 19, 2016
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    Hi, LiveInTheMoment, you are not asking too much, not at all.
    It is a common human's need to meet a person who will be part of your life! Keep your chin up and you will find your true half!
  2. RyanAdams1987

    RyanAdams1987 New Member

    Jan 24, 2016
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    You're not asking too much at all. I have a similar resounding feeling.

    I'm 28 and the last LTR I had was 4 years ago. I have no idea why I have such bad luck with women. People tell me I'm beautiful all the time, I'm smart, I work out religiously and have a pretty good body, I'm funny, etc...

    When I was 21, I joined the Navy and now it's six years later. I just turned 28, and I have absolutely terrible luck with women. My heart is very drawn to successful, alpha femmes with 'A' personalities. The problem is here I am, I'm 28, my job is something I'm really ashamed of (which is should be), I'm starting from scratch with my bachelors degree, and I know for those reasons a lot of the women I'm interested in don't even give me a second look (online).

    What my heart wants and what my body/mind want are two entirely different animals though. I also like smart, funny, easygoing, athletic type 'B's who don't take life too seriously.

    For the aforementioned reasons, those are reasons I know I rarely get second glances on online profiles and things of that nature from women I'm attracted to.

    I can't seem to figure out for the life of me though why women never ever approach me. Most people can tell I'm gay (most gay women anyway, as a whole everyone else seems to be pretty oblivious), but nothing ever happens. I occasionally feel spurts of social engagement and hit on women at bars, but I come off really strong, intense, aggressive, etc.. I think I give too much eye contact, ignore some social cues, and other stuff like that. The women that are interested in me are women I am not interested in at all.

    I'm not looking for someone to marry right now, I'm not even looking for an long-term thing for the next couple years because I know how stupid it is to do that when your life is changing so much, it never goes well. I just want someone to talk to who understands me and likes me for me and doesn't want me to be something that I'm not, and I feel like that women does not exist, at least not one who thinks I'm not good enough.

    I'm just so lonely, and I fear no one will even give me a second glance for 4 years or so. I don't know how to not come off so desperate and overbearing, it's so hard for me, but I know its the cues everyone picks up on.


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