No doubt you've noticed that many lesbian couples - married either in the law's eyes or in their own - use different terms to refer to their mates. One woman speaks of her partner, and another woman speaks of her wife. Which do you prefer? For my part, I find that wife exactly denotes the relationship a woman has with her woman, whereas partner is used to denote many different kinds of relationships and is thus too ambiguous. A woman who doesn't want to leave any doubt in others' minds about her relationship to her wife ought to use that word to refer to her. What do you think?